BBW Dating:
A One Week Plan to Prepare for Romance
by Stephanie H.
Dray
If
you're a single BBW, it's time to get back out there into
the dating world. You know it's time to stop living a Life-In-Waiting,
but maybe you're not sure where to begin when it comes to
BBW dating and romance. There are a lot of options with BBW
dating, like going out more, looking for online romance, or
registering with BBW dating services. But the real place to
start BBW dating might surprise you: begin with Big Beautiful
You!
I'm not talking about waiting
to start BBW dating until you've lost those pounds or until
you've finally balanced your checkbook. That'd be like waiting
to cook dinner until after you've purchased the perfect ice-maker.
No, I'm talking about doing a week-long BBW dating self-inventory
for singles. I'm talking about knowing what you have to offer
as a single woman and what you really want out of a relationship.
In short, I'm talking about opening yourself up to a life
that embraces Mr. or Mrs. Right. And it all starts with a
smile.
1. Yes, Smile. That's your
task for Monday. Smile all day long, at everyone you meet.
Smile even if you don't feel like it. Smile when you pick
up the phone. Smile at the people in the checkout isle of
the grocery store. Smile at the mail carrier. Smile at your
cat. Smiling is a way of telling other people that you're
receptive to them, receptive to meeting others, and receptive
to life. It also releases chemicals in your brain that tell
you the same thing. Receptive people find it easier to get
dates.
2. Keep Smiling,
and Tell Everybody. Tuesday is "Tell Everybody"
day. If you're truly open to dating, you have to let everyone
know. Call, email, send letters. Tell every friend you have
that you're ready to start dating, and ask them if they know
anyone who might interest you. If they don't, ask them to
ask their friends. This is what we call a leap of faith. An
attitude change isn't real until we share it with someone
else. Once you've gotten the word out, it will be harder to
back down.
3. Make a List of Dates You'd
Like To Go On. For Wednesday, get out a sheet of paper and
write down five dates you'd like to go on in the next year.
Maybe you'd like to go on a picnic. Maybe you'd like to go
out to dinner at a particular restaurant. Perhaps taking a
tour of the local zoo is more your cup of tea. Or perhaps
tea is your cup of tea, and you know of a local tea house.
Whatever you fancy, write it down. Envision yourself going
there on a date. Now you've got a list ready if someone asks
'What do you want to do?' And don't forget to keep smiling.
3. Pick out Outfits. Thursday
evening, make a date with your closet. Go through your wardrobe
and write down outfits that you'd wear
to each of the potential dates you listed yesterday. If you'd
like to go to the opera, and you don't have a ball gown, don't
panic. The opera is one of those dates that everyone is expected
to fret over. But otherwise, don't allow clothing to be an
excuse to avoid going out. Too many women literally turn down
dates because they can't imagine what they'd wear. And BBW,
with their additional difficulties shopping for clothing,
are just as guilty of this as anyone. With a handy list of
outfits ready, you won't have that excuse.
4. Join a New Club. Friday's
shouldn't be spent alone, and single women need as many friends
as they can get. Pick a new club that interests you. Perhaps
you're interested in politics - find a way to hook up with
a local chapter of your party. Perhaps you'd like to be a
better speaker; join the local toastmaster group. If your
interests are primarily those that appeal to women, and you're
looking for a member of the opposite sex to sweep you off
your feet, don't worry. All those ladies at your new club
likely have brothers and sons they can fix you up on dates
with. Do what you love and the dating will come.
5. Make an Online Profile at
Myspace or Friendster. Saturday you should have the time to
sit down and make a profile on a social networking site. The
benefits of doing this are two-fold. First, it will help you
meet new people, often in your area. Second, it will force
you to answer questions about yourself. By thinking hard about
your own interests, your own strengths, and how you want to
introduce yourself as a Big Beautiful Woman to the dating
world, this will help prepare you for other opportunities
down the road, such as dating services or classified ads.
Invite a friend over and have her take lots of pictures of
you so that you can put one up on your profile that flatters
you. Digital cameras are great for this. Really think about
who you are as a person and what you want for yourself, and
from a partner.
6. Clean your Bedroom. Seriously.
Clean your bedroom. Sunday is an opportunity for you to start
your new week fresh with a romantic retreat in your own house
that will make you feel sexy and energized. Knowing that you
have a bedroom to take someone back to, if the mood should
strike you, will help open you up to new possibilities, even
if you think you're not that kind of girl. Besides, your bedroom
is likely where you'll get ready to go on a date. It should
be clean and organized so that you won't be stressed when
you're getting ready.
One week later, and you're ready
to start going on blind dates, registering with dating services,
and finding romance. You've prepared yourself for BBW dating,
in an out. You're a Big Beautiful Woman ready to take on the
world. So breathe in deep, smile, and jump back into the single's
scene.
